Tantric sex courses and workshops are abundant nowadays and drive significant amount of attention from general public. People are eager to learn and explore their own sexuality and that of their partner.
Surprisingly though, tantric sex is not about orgasm. It simply not the main objective of Tantra, believe me or not. It is about intimacy, connection and feeling. Intimacy is about trust. You have to trust your partner to be truly close.
There are variety of techniques that allow the partners to achieve the abovementioned.
Establish The Contact With Your Partner
Keep your eyes open during the foreplay and the sex itself. Create that deep eye contact that allow you to sink into each other’s depth, to perceive the partner not just as a person, but to see him/her as an incarnation of the Divine, to see the true majestic spirit of their being. This is very important in tantra, but many couples find it unexpectedly difficult to do. We are so used to make love with our eyes shut, it takes some time and practice to break that habit.
Breathing In Synch
In tantra, is believed that the breath is carrying the energy, so when two people are breathing in tune with each other, they create a common energy space between them. It is hard to overstate the importance of such tuning in, and the results are often surpass all expectations.
Create Sacred Space
You would need to create a place just for love making (and all pre and post plays of course). Choose the area in your home which you can decorate with soft fabrics and candles. Use sensual aromatic oils, such as ylang-ylang and rose and create a pleasurable musical background. Here nothing should disturb you and turn you away from each other. This place is only for you two. and it is for lovemaking, not for discussing your daily concerns!
Don’t Speed Up!
For tantric sex, you should never be in a hurry. It’s all about feeling the finer subtleties of touch, sensual delicacy and unhurried enjoyment. Forget everything you’ve seen in the porn movies – here its gonna be the opposite!
You should always respect your partner and their desires. Talk to each other openly to find out what are your partner’s dreams, wishes and desires. What turns them on might very well be not what you expected! Wise and delicate approach is what distinguishes tantric approach to sex from modern western sexual habits of the most people. Be a sexual luminary, practice tantra!